A predetermined standard space
This “one size fits all” box
A blindfold from all there is to see
This restricted area that halts growth
Unhappy is the sole (soul) that resides in a box
That is not who you are
You were made to grow
You are so much more than cardboard
Much more than the cramped space you’re told to embody
Leave the shoe’s life to the shoe
In you lives magic that refuses to be contained Beauty that deserves to be beheld
Diversity is the magic that flows through your veins
Who are they to tell you what you ought to be?
How dare they try to fit you into their stereotype??
They will tell you to cut your coat according to their material
This time your reply will be nay
And when they see you rise against all odds
As they approach you with their half-hearted congratulations
You would turn the other way
Not because you’ve lost your manners as they would presume
But because their validation is no longer your pill to swallow.
EXPLANATION
We live in a society where everyone is trying to conform to a certain standard, to be anything but themselves. Everyone either consciously or unconsciously tries to fit their lives into society’s time frame or they’re predetermined a failure when their life has barely started. We’re pitching ourselves against others and measuring ourselves with yardsticks that don’t belong to us instead of seeing each other as companions to learn from.
Is it just me or does anyone else totally hate the ‘’where do you see yourself in five years’’ question? I figured that a lot of people who ask this question don’t really care, all they want to do with the information is evaluate heaven knows what and then give their validation, like your life is meant to fit into their standard. Which is why when you eventually tell them, you get replies like:
“Are you sure that’s a good idea?”
“Isn’t that too much”
Or worst of all:
“You should try this instead”
I often find myself thinking;
Who asked you??
It’s disheartening how many individuals use this as a means to give their two pence, shove their opinions down your throat and mold you into who they think you should be. I’m not saying you should brush off good advice as there are still people who genuinely listen and give wonderful counsel but the majority just want to judge. I also find it quite ridiculous when people say they can’t take a person who doesn’t have a five year future plan seriously, I personally feel as though what they unconsciously mean is that they can’t take a person whose five year future plan doesn’t impress them seriously(read that again!) and so if you don’t exactly have stuff figured out right now that’s fine too love, it doesn’t make you a failure afterall it takes nothing to spew out flowery words in order to impress whoever is on the receiving end of that statement. So take your time, find out what you really want to do and where you really want to be in x years time then go after it unapologetically regardless of what the next person thinks, be in no rush to impress anyone, you weren’t created for their pleasure neither were you created to impress anyone and that’s on period. Keep in mind that life is a gradual process, poko á poko as music will say.
Does this explanation do it for you or does something else come to mind when you read this piece?
Please let me know in the comment section, also feel free to share your thoughts and just about anything with me, I’ll be looking forward to it.
Remember, there’s strength in vulnerability
Have an amazing day💜
Chronicles of a wallflower 
I clicked on the link so fast😂, I always look forward to your write ups.🥺
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Your response inspires me to keep writing🥺
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Tovia, my dear friend. This is wonderful, you express your self so well. I will be careful not to ask you that question you so hate. I love this piece, it was breathtaking.
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Thank you💕
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I love this so much, thanks Tovia. 💜
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Thanks for reading💕
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This is it!! Our diversity is what makes us awesome! Those that compare themselves with themselves are fools! May God help us not to be the ones constantly looking for validation from others. You’re amazing
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Amen, I sincerely hope that God helps us be secure in Him and in ourselves enough to not seek validation from others. The thing with seeking validation is that sometimes you don’t even know you’re doing it and then there are people that compare themselves because comparison is all they’ve ever known…
Thank you, I think you’re amazing as well
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Your articles are always so well thought, outright inspiring🥺 I love this❤️❤️
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Thank you💕🤗
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Beautifully written as always. I feel the question also lets you discover the person’s passion. You see them light up as they share their dreams and the source of their drive.
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Definitely, it’s always beautiful to watch someone light up as they tell you of their passions and their aspirations which is why we must always listen for the right reasons and be careful not to be the reason they stop lighting up.
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I have re- read this post as I said, I would. We should not let others dissuade us from our dreams. Also we should see people’s opinions as they really are and try to learn from them. Thank you for the shoe box.
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Thank you so much for this wonderful piece. This is so inspiring. I really love this.
Can’t wait for the next one!!!
Thank you so much tovyyy❤️
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Thank you for taking out your time to read and love this💓
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It did speak to me because lately this has been the only thing on my mind. Graduating seems like a big deal to everyone else but me because to everyone they know what their plans are and what they want to do after but then to someone like me with no vision uncertainty is all I see. So thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to not have everything figured out and even if I did, I don’t need anyone’s validation either. Anyways looking forward to your next write up xx
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Honey, you’re an amazing individual and I know you’ve got this. Things might be a little hazy right now but it’ll clear up eventually. The truth is that a person might have it all sorted out, rigid plans and all but life steps in, distorts some things and uncertainty creeps in and it’s just one of the beauties of this life so don’t let anyone push you to have a solution this minute, take your time love and emerge the queen of your own story whenever you deem fit❤
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