Your reflection stared right back at you. Stoic pose, tired brown eyes and pale skin that had seen better days. The only sign of life being your lips that parted each time you said “I am happy”. You’d said it seven times already, you just have to get to twenty one and you’d be fine. You believed that the words would stretch from your lips, develop hands that’ll travel into your being and wrap your pretty heart in bubble wrap. Until they became part of you.
But today you couldn’t muster the courage, try as you might the words wrestled teeth and tongue so they stayed buried in the lump beneath your throat, accompanying the tears now spiraling down your eyes. You’re crying because you’re not okay, because you desperately want to be okay and because all the motivation in the world didn’t tell you that it’s okay not to be okay. Eyes hurting from all the bawling, you crawl back under the covers, giving yourself the permission to not be okay.
In a world where all the motivation you have urges you to constantly keep going, this is your permission to stop and breathe. These days we’re almost always told to be positive. While positivity isn’t necessarily bad, there’s such a thing as toxic positivity. The kind that blinds you and rips you of the opportunity to own up to your bad days. No one probably wants to hear it but those days will come and I want you to sit with those days and let them run their course as opposed to powering through because honey you will crash and burn.
These days, there’s so much pressure to move on from bad days and situations that we forget it’s a process. The only way to get through is to actually get through. Let the frustration, the crying and the days when you lay in bed saying to hell with productivity happen. You must first crawl before you walk and run if the need be. Give yourself the permission to pause, to breathe and recuperate because you would need strength to face the days that life would throw at you, even the good ones.
It’s okay to admit that at this point in time you’re going through a rough parch in life. It’s okay to complain and to feel your feelings as they come. To give yourself the permission to say today wasn’t my best day.
Life isn’t kind enough to stop for us when we have bad days and so it’s up to us to do it for ourselves. There’s strength in letting yourself be vulnerable like this. There is comfort in stripping and holding yourself bare because it is in these moments that you learn to grow, it’s in these moments that your soul feels seen and it’s a beautiful thing to be seen.
Have an amazing day and if it wasn’t amazing, it’s okay to admit that too. You’d certainly have better days🧡
Chronicles of a wallflower 
T baby …..thank you so much for this word of encouragement….I needed it 😭 cause sitting with my books and cry within, faking smiles saying i’m fine is a toxic positivity.
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You’re welcome, I’m glad this post was relevant🤗
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Thank you for sharing this❤ so true that we have to feel our emotions instead of ignoring them and pretending everything is good all the time. I hate toxic positivity, you’ll never heal in that kind of denial!
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I agree with you, nothing good ever comes out of denial. Rather than denying them, I think it’s more beneficial to employ the feel to heal method. Thank you for reading🤗
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Thank you so much for this tovyy. I really needed this🥺❤️
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You’re welcome honey🧡🤗
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😍😍😍 you are the best tovs
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Thank you🥰
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I love this blog and your great info….thank you so much !!!
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This blog would not exist without it’s readers so thank you for being in my corner🧡
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An amazing read
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Thank you so much🤗
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This is so timely and well written. It was really worth the wait.💜
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Thank you for constantly taking out time to read my words, it means a lot to me. On the days when I want to abandon ship and disappear, your thoughtful comments and time you’ve invested here keeps me grounded so thank you again🧡🤗
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❤️
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Thanks for stopping by🤗
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I have watched this kdrama and I agree with whatever you wrote. The world really needs to come to the terms that it’s okay to be not okay and that makes us human
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Yes. The world really needs to understand that as horrible as bad days might be, every now and then they’re necessary and it’s okay to admit that.
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This post reminds me how we force ourself to look towards the sunshine all the time.. you have aptly talked about “toxic positivity”. We believe that only positivity can help us take the next step.. but the truth is , it is equally important to be aware of our negatives, our despair or sorrows. Accepting our emotions as they are is what we should be doing instead of covering everything up with just masked positively thing . .
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Though unpleasant, the bad days are just as necessary and we need to learn to Sir with them and hold a honest confrontation. There’s nothing wrong in admitting that at a particular point in time, life wasn’t at its best. I’d like to think that it even depicts strength. Thank you for reading🤗
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We have to sail through bad times. We cannot run away from it. Your article resonated with me.
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Thank you for reading I’m glad it was helpful.
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I loved your post !! I came from WordPress (: it’s okay to not be okay is my favorite kdrama haha!! I also love the style you have here ! I hope to be as good as you soon, I just started off today! Much love 🤍
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Thank you and I’m glad you’re also a fan of kdrama. I hope your blogging journey sees entails putting out content that you love, enjoying the process and smashing whatever goals you set for yourself. Wish you the best of luck🧡
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That was truly encouraging…Everyone at some point in their life needs a bit of motivation or words of encouragement and that was awesome
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Thank you for reading🤗
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